No amount of discussion eases the pain, Colorado shooting survivors said.
"It's so sad. It's just so sad," said Judy Brown, whose son, Brooks, was threatened by one of the Columbine killers, Eric Harris, about a year before the shootings there. The family tried to alert authorities that Harris was dangerous.
Judy Brown said she hopes friends of the Connecticut shootings will comfort them over the long run, not just in the initial weeks and months.
"Send them calls. Call them on the phone. Leave them messages. Let them know that you haven't forgotten. It doesn't go away. It's a lifetime struggle.
"It never, ever, ever, goes away. It never goes away," she said, and began to weep.
Associated Press writers Brian Skoloff in Phoenix and P. Solomon Banda, Dan Elliott and Kristen Wyatt in Denver contributed to this report.