The Free Press, Mankato, MN

November 3, 2012

Your View: If gays marry, it won’t devalue my marriage

Kevin Filter, Mankato

— As a married man and father of four children, I would like to share a few of my thoughts about the Minnesota marriage amendment:

My marriage is wonderful and defines me. I am happy to live in a community that acknowledges my commitment to my wife and I would like my community to acknowledge the same bond between any other couples that share the same commitment.

I am confident that if we ever acknowledge gay marriage that I will still be allowed to stay married to my wife and that my family will be just as valid as it is now.

My choice to have four children with my wife did not validate my marriage. I was just as married to my wife before we had children.

Equal rights are more valuable than prejudice and/or the suppression of equal rights.

I am proud to live in a city that has formally stood against inequality. Kudos to the Mankato City Council.

I am embarrassed to be represented by a state legislature that felt it was a good idea to double down on inequality. It is already the case that gay people cannot get married in Minnesota. This amendment stands as a reminder to gay people that the majority will do what it wants in regards to their rights.

I am saddened to know that even if Minnesotans vote down the marriage amendment, nobody really wins. It simply prevents further loss. But it is my hope that all of the “no” votes will send the message that we are still a caring people concerned about the rights of all citizens.

I will not send the opposite message.